The only book written by therapists directly focusing on the dilemma of parenting children so as to minimize the negative effects of a narcissistic or borderline parent-partner. It provides strength, encouragement, and reassurance, and teaches effective parenting methods, while keeping the focus on increasing compassion and resilience.

Author NoteIntroductionPart I: When the Other Parent Is Narcissistic or BorderlineChapter 1: Self-Focused ParentingChapter 2: What the Narcissistic Family Is Like for ChildrenChapter 3: What the Narcissistic Family Is Like for YouChapter 4 Narcissistic Family System: Patterns and ProblemsPart II: Building ResilienceChapter 5: Resilient Parent, Resilient ChildChapter 6: Changing DirectionsChapter 7: Building Your Own ResilienceChapter 8: Self-Compassion: Key to Developing Healthy Self-WorthChapter 9: Creating an Environment to ThriveChapter 10: Responsive ParentingChapter 11: Help Your Children Develop Self-CompassionChapter 12: Help Your Children Have Their Own LivesPart III: Parenting Will Be DifferentChapter 13: What to Say: Handling Family CommunicationChapter 14: What Not to Say and DoChapter 15: Responding to Emotional and Physical DangersChapter 16: Assessing Your SituationChapter 17: Parenting in the Same HouseholdChapter 18: Parenting After DivorceChapter 19: Being a Good Enough ParentChapter 20: Final WordsAppendix A: Vocabulary of Feeling WordsAppendix B: Communication PromptsAppendix C: Suggested ReadingNotesBibliographyIndexAbout the Authors