Many Christians feel as if something is missing in their relationship with God. They long to find an in - depth, authentic relationship with God. Instead, many believers find themselves living out a results - oriented u201cbehavior management systemu201d of spiritual growth. Unfortunately, rather than leading to an intimate relationship with God, this behavior - based system does just the opposite. It produces an unsatisfying life full of inner turmoil and doubt as Christians wonder whether or not they will ever experience the deeply satisfying life Jesus promised. Chuck Bomar calls this the u201celephant in the roomu201d that nobody seems to talk about but everyone struggles with. As the pastor of a church embraced by millennials and young families, and a long - time leader of seminars that help pastors reach this u201clostu201d generation, Chuck is uniquely qualified to write this book.