The partisan divide in the United States has widened to a chasm. Legislators vote along party lines and rarely cross the aisle. Political polarization is personal, too?and it is making us miserable. Surveys show that Americans have become more fearful and hateful of supporters of the opposing political party and imagine that they hold much more extreme views than they actually do. We have cordoned ourselves off: we prefer to date and marry those with similar opinions and are less willing to spend time with people on the other side. How can we loosen the grip of this toxic polarization and start working on our most pressing problems? The Way Out offers an escape from this morass. The social psychologist Peter T. Coleman explores how conflict resolution and complexity science provide guidance for dealing with seemingly intractable political differences. Deploying the concept of attractors in dynamical systems, he explains why we are stuck in this rut as well as the unexpected ways that deeply rooted oppositions can and do change. Coleman meticulously details principles and practices for navigating and healing the difficult divides in our homes, workplaces, and communities, blending compelling personal accounts from his years of working on entrenched conflicts with lessons from leading-edge research.

Preface: While Rome BurnsAcknowledgments1. Introduction: Our Crisis and Opportunity2. Why We Are Stuck3. Attracted to Conflict4. Think Different-Change Your Theory of Change5. Reset-Capture the Power of New Beginnings6. Bolster and Break-Locate Latent Bubbles7. Complicate-Embrace Contradictory Complexity8. Move-Activate Novel Pathways and Rhythms9. Adapt-Seek Evolution for Revolution10. Conclusion: New Rules for The Way OutAfterwordAppendix: Assessments and ExercisesNotesIndex