For far too long, the church has tried to make disciples using a one-size-fits-all approach. Some churches advocate 1-on-1 discipling, others try getting everyone into a small group, while still others training through mission trips or service projects. Yet others focus all their efforts on attracting people to a large group gathering to hear biblical teaching and preaching. But does one size really fit everyone?

Introduction - For far too long, the church has approached discipleship with the assumption that there is a single model or context for discipleship. Some churches advocate 1-on-1, others try small groups, while still others emphasize mission trips or discipleship through large group teaching and preaching. But this one-size-fits all mentality doesn't work in real life. We need to understand how discipleship occurs in different relational contexts and we need to set our expectations to match the context.Chapter 1: Our Public RelationshipsThe public context for discipleship refers to the ways in which the church gathers corporately, as a body of Christ followers, and includes people into that community. This is the discipleship context for inspiring people and creating move-mentum through public preaching. In most churches, this typically happens at a Sunday gathering of 150+ people during a worship service.Chapter 2: Our Social RelationshipsThough we identify corporately with a larger body of believers, most of us can only have social relationships with a group of between 20 and 70 people. This is the context for community, mission, and practicing our faith. It is the ideal context for a missional community.Chapter 3: Our Personal RelationshipsWho do you look to for support and help? Who challenges you and speaks into your life when needed? These are the relationships that provide support and challenges, and it includes the typical small group gathering of 6 to 16 people.Chapter 4: Our Transparent RelationshipsThese are the relationships where we are vulnerable and intimate---the safe relationships in our life where we can be completely honest. This is the typical gathering for an effective D-Group, a same-gender gatherings of 2 to 5 men or women where more intensive discipleship occurs.Chapter 5: The Divine RelationshipEvery Christian believer is ultimately a disciple of Jesus, following him through the power of the Holy Spirit. This is an essential relationship where the Holy Spirit empowers our identity, reveals our gifting, and enables us to walk in truth and love. This is the context in which we practice the individual spiritual disciplines like prayer, fasting, silence and meditation.ConclusionSummarizes the content and includes a Q and A section on some of the practical questions.